were abused before the age of sixteen. In the same period 4% of those we counselled were perpetrators of sexual abuse, two of whom had abused children. The unpalatable truth is that sexual abuse happens and is damaging and destructive. Every abusive incident, however seemingly trivial, is deeply concerning. Any sexual abuse has the potential to devastate the person affected. It is not necessarily any less damaging to be shown pornographic pictures than to be raped. Neither is good because of the